Why men date other marrieds?
Talk about a loaded theme that no one wants to speak about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on since old ages. Affairs can be fraught with problems, cause sorrow, and other harms. Plus you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and sincerety matter, money, age dissimilarity, spiritual background, shame, and on and on. I anticipate there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this post I should classify an affair as a long term, maybe years long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other wives/husbands, dating wives.
Why do people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are women seeking an affair. I suppose generally though it is only the human condition, the need for love, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual creatures. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and exciting, and sex makes us flee the real world for a small period of time. This ecstasy exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels high enough. Some people are able to turn the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and mature, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the pursue. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the caring for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the whole romance thing. These desires and yearnings can be so strong they rise above the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of people the yearnings will defeat their fears and make them risk the wrath of not only their relatives, but society also. So why, what is the catalyst?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is extremely pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically driven sex addicts and can find away to have sex and not hurt your relatives or anyone else? You would need to minimize the jeopardy you are taking. If you have the attitude that a good affair is one that is beneficial to all, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the biggest cluster, huge in fact. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they feel comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to consider. Your finances are so entwined. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to stay together besides love and sex.
Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them completing the sex act, at least not with their othere half. An marital affair from time to time solves the problem while keeping the marriage uharmed.
Ignoring, sorrowfully this is a ordinary reason I fear. One or the other, frequently the gentleman is sexually neglecting his female for a tones of reasons. As a male I really am grateful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” But I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is gone, maybe it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our general concerns diverged. Maybe it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Maybe I simply do not know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The ultimate reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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